Tell me this.

[INCH06]

If you had a mate, who got sent down for a crime you and him both took part in, but you , because of mental health issues and previous convictions got sent to a hospital but he was sent to a Y.O.I and commited suicide, would you feel welcome at his funeral even after his mother phoned to say he took his own life after spending a week in the place? Would you or should you feel guilty and should you/would you attend is funeral if you were mates from the age 12?

[AionSan]

I would go. I believe in loyalty and honor. Other people's concerns dont' fly far.

[torcher]

I'de go too, although i dont know what a YOI is but yeah i'de definately go. i mean you have to say your last respects

[Nox (ADVANCED)]

i also agree i would turn up to say goodbye to ya mate

[DoctaD]

YOI = Young Offenders Institute, basically juvi.

After something as traumatic as this, you wouldn't catch me anywhere near the funeral. I'm not religious or spiritual, and I don't believe that my recently deceased friend will be able to judge me from the grave for such things.

Not attending the funeral doesn't mean that you don't care.

[SayItAintSo014]

Docta D makes a good point, but I'd still go in respect for a friend.

[INCH06]

I'm with Docta D as in I belive one your dead, that's it, your gone. Buried or burnt your fucked, your not here. It's just other people I'm worried about:

For example (& I'd probably turn up pissed anyways) if I do go they're gonna think I got off lightly, if I don't go they're gonna think I'm laughing at the fact I got off lightly, whereas I think he got off lightly, all he had to do was stick it out (easier said than done). Yet I'm an alcoholic, which at the end of the day, nobody forces the drink down my neck but I do.

At the end of the day, all normal familys will think I'm the cunt but fuck it. I've decided not to go because as I said earlier I'd probably (would) turn up pissed. & to me that wud be disrespect, going on a bender of booze and u need not no what however wud be respect.

Good feedback, but Docta was spot on. I think I'm doing the right thing. Noone forces anyone to do the things they do.

YOI = Young Offenders Institute, basically juvi.

{Juvenile} //Prison for people under 21/20/19 (depending on crime) in England (dunno about Scot/Ir/Wales).

It just goes to show tho, u watch these documentries and they say they have special teams for certain people with certain mindframes. Look what happens, they fuck up and someone dies. Is that really justice? Is it fuck.

[SayItAintSo014]

Well INCH, do what you gotta do.

[torcher]

shit, over here you can be 17 and go to prison. no Juenile detention bullshit.

[INCH06]

Young people would be on seperate wings though right?

[blaksun]

show up smashed and dressed all in red.

[torcher]

depends on what they did. usually rapists and molestors and shit go to solitary, or are in a wing with other rapists. most others are in general population.

[Scamula]

I'd go only if I think that I wouldn't be crucified by the family. It's not worth it at all. Basically he's dead now and that's that. If you treated him well in life, then he knows where you stand/stood.

[AionSan]

Wings, be them left or right, don't fly far in funerals. You shared pride and honor with your friend or not. Simple as that.